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Tips on Understanding Women in Relationships

Why is it that some men have more success with women than others? Is it because they understand the psychology of women? Maybe, maybe not. It is imperative to realize, that women think differently than men when it comes to relationships. They are much more intuitive compared to men. They have a broad perspective on issues, which make them prone to becoming overwhelmed on occasions.
Men generally focus on one problem at a time or a limited number of problems. They are also able to separate themselves from problems and look at it from an external perspective. Let’s go through some focal points to consider, when in a relationship.

What Women Want

Attention Please!

A woman’s biological makeup to settle down. Even if a woman doesn’t say so, she is aware that her biological clock is always ticking. Women need to be treated in a way that make them feel special and important. You need to show her that she is the most important person in your world. Pay attention to little details. Express yourself by letting her know you are thinking about her, especially when you are apart, otherwise she will be emotionally distraught.

Are You Listening?

When she exclaims this, she instinctively knows you’re not. All women want is someone to hear them out, share their troubles, and empathize with them. If she does not get this, she will stop opening up to you altogether. You may notice her saying something at one time, and then find her doing the total opposite on some other occasion. You should understand why all this is happening and be supportive, or you will often pay for it in ways you may not even realize.

Surprise! Surprise!

Women love to be surprised occasionally. You need not buy expensive gifts; what matters is the sentiment behind the gift, not its cost. You can buy flowers or present her with a personalized greeting card. Be open to trying new things. All that matters to a woman is how you do it, and without her knowing about your surprise plans.

You’re Special

“Yeah yeah, you look fine” is not a compliment. Women like to be flattered about their beauty or the dress they are adorning. This makes them feel desirable and attractive. Women want to know if they are your first priority or not, they need reassurance from time to time. So text her randomly and remind her about a romantic dinner or a getaway you both shared.

The worst thing you can do is ogle at another woman when she is around. Never say the other woman is more beautiful, even if it is a fact. Try telling your woman how special she is; you don’t need to overdo it, but just remind her every once in a while about it.

Watch Your Ways

Women are more sensitive than their male counterparts. They never forget an incident related to infidelity. If you have hurt your woman in a similar way, and if she constantly uses a past scenario during arguments, clearly she hasn’t forgiven you. Women forgive but don’t forget and have a hard time handling such dishonest conduct – it makes them feel exploited by their selfish partner. Work it out and try to come to an agreement to never talk about it.

Men tend to forget fights, but women remember them for a long time. That’s why you can say something to your girlfriend, and a few days later she may ask you, “What did you actually mean when you said … This is because women are hypersensitive to your actions and words. Whenever you are wrong, admit it. And when you are right, keep mum. She will eventually notice her mistake.

What Day Is It?

How is it that men sharply remember dates such as mortgage payments and insurance renewals, but accidentally forget an anniversary or a birthday? I know you were not being rude or deliberately hurtful, but not remembering certain dates that laid the groundwork of your relationship, makes your partner feel disconnected or less important. These little things that you do, go a long way in showing your partner that you really care.

Chivalry Counts

All of us like to secure our spaces, and love to be treated with respect. In the same way, women dislike narcissists who misuse or ill-treat them. Women are always attracted to a man of refinement, someone who is kind, polite, and formal. Things like opening the door for her and offering her your seat still matter in modern times. Women always prefer well-groomed and mannered men. Women dislike men who brag and lie. They judge men by how they treat the women in their own family.

What Else Matters

Constant Praise and Gratitude

Like men, women too love to be showered with praises. This act will not only give her hope, but would also boost her self-esteem. It also conveys a feeling of being appreciated and loved. She does not expect you to read her mind to show her you care, but she does expect you to compliment her, sincerely and genuinely.

Making Time

Spending quality time is an important factor in a relationship, given one’s busy life. Ask what your woman would like to do, take a vacation together or try something new. Set aside a day to celebrate and rekindle your love, with just the two of you hanging around. If the woman you are dating, rightly fits the soulmate or future wife quotient, acknowledge your commitment to her. Let her know your future goals and plans that surround her.

Keeping Promises

Women don’t like to be promised something that is then broken repeatedly or not lived up to (due to forgetfulness, which is a very poor excuse). What men could do in this case is, diligently make note of the promises made and plan it accordingly, just as they plan things for the future of the family, since it of course matters a lot to his partner.

Acknowledging Commitment

If a man can foresee a future with a woman, he should make it known to his family/friends. He should also emphasize her importance in public and not treat her like a nobody, or disregard her obvious presence.
So avoid building walls around your emotions, instead talk it out. Open the doors of communication and express your feelings or thoughts, which will help you in avoiding conflicts. Be kind, considerate and loving, spend time with her and start thinking of ways to bond with her emotionally.

Amazing Things to Say to Your Girlfriend

It’s easy to say what’s in your heart or on your mind if you are honest and open about your feelings, which isn’t easy for many guys. Relationships rely on not only trust and loyalty, but a balance where both partners can be themselves, without forcing make-believe emotions into the equation. It is important to work on one’s feelings by tapping into emotional pockets like gratitude, appreciation, love, understanding, compromise, and forgiveness.
No one expects either partner to go on an emotional overload everyday, but as often as one can, to keep things alive and young. For guys who find it hard to communicate with their girlfriends, it is a commendable quality to seek help from other sources, on how to do this. You’ll find that the suggestions on sweet things to say to your girlfriend, will propel you to come up with your own lines, in no time.

Sweet Things to Tell a Girlfriend
The key to making these lines sound genuine, is to mean them. Don’t use these lines to fulfill some kind of sneaky need or get away with something, because eventually she’ll catch on. If you really love her, you’ll use these lines to make her feel better and reassured; by default you’ll feel good too.

– Of course I love you. Don’t you ever doubt that.
– If I didn’t love you, I wouldn’t be so incredibly hopeless when you’re not around.

– Remember that trip we took last spring? The one where you put together that amazing itinerary? We should do it again soon.
– I drew a bath for you. Let me give you a foot massage while you soak in the tub.

– I made reservations at this incredible bed and breakfast. Happy anniversary!
– I’m sorry you lost your job. Look at the bright side – you still have me.

– Good morning beautiful! I woke up a little early to make breakfast for you. Meet me downstairs, pronto!
– I think it’s my turn to prepare dinner for you tonight. I rented a new DVD. You’ll love it.

– If a hot woman walked up to me, I wouldn’t be human if I didn’t feel great. But that doesn’t mean I’ll act on it. You make me want to be better, and to stay that way.

– You need to be with someone who lives to make you happy. I could be that someone.

– Most men aren’t emotionally strung, they’re built from steel. They hide pain effortlessly. But behind closed doors, we’re weeping for the women we love.

– How do you manage to take my breath away every single time I see you?

– I’m sorry if my jealousy drives you up the wall. But it’s only because the thought of losing you scares me.

– Shut up and kiss me, I haven’t seen you for an entire day.

Couples who are crazy about each other find it easy to say how they’re feeling, while showing it without restraint. Find it within yourself to say something nice to your girlfriend once in a while, if not all the time. No one expects unrealistic measures, so drop a line now and then to brighten things up for her.

Ways to Make Your First Date Special

Okay, so you have finally managed to get into the good books of that new girl in tight jeans in your college, and gone so far as to get a date with her. However, perhaps you are feeling jittery about it right now. It is normal, though. About 99% of the populations feel shivers running down their spine when the first date comes around. The rest 1% of the population are Don Juans, and I am sure they will not need this article in the first place.

Enough of the small talk now! We need to put your little love-struck heart to rest, and soon. Read on to find some cool ideas for this special occasion. Of course, you must remember to be suave enough to carry them ahead. So, bonne chance, and read on.

Idea # 1 – The Amusement Park
My favorite place to take a girl out on a first date is surely the amusement park. Really, I am not joking! Most girls like that sort of stuff, even the older ones do! And there is so much to do in an amusement park that you will be soon out of time. You can do fun things together like bumping cars, going whacky on the roller-coasters, racking your brains out laughing at yourselves in the funny mirrors, or simply eating candy floss together. And then, you can cozy up in a small café in the park and get to know each other better!
Pros: Amusement parks are meant for fun. Even if your girl has come in a nasty mood, she will lighten up soon and enjoy with you. Also, you will be able to impress her as a fun-loving young man.
Cons: You might not find a comfortable corner for just the two of you. Amusement parks are usually crowded.

Idea # 2 – The Cinema House
The cinema house is always a favorite when guys are planning their dates. Nowhere else can you get to sit so close together (so close that you can actually smell her hair!) for so cheap! You must make sure it’s a movie the girl likes, though. Or she might attach the mediocrity of the movie with you. In a lighter vein, the cinema hall is the perfect place to hold hands if you wish, and even land a tiny little peck on the cheek – an initiation to a good relation. Girls, in their part, do love to weep during melodramas (keep handkerchiefs ready) and scream their lungs out if it’s a horror flick. Speaking of that, it’s really fun to take a girl out for a horror movie. You might have to convince her, though.
Pros: Movie halls are cheap and you can share popcorn and other things together :).
Cons: If she hates the movie, she might hate you! Make the choice wisely.

Idea # 3 – The Beach
When it comes to planning a first date, the beach is always right. It is open and crowded, so girls feel safer on beaches, and beaches are fun. You can sit under a parasol and gossip about things, you can get an ice cream for her, play Frisbees … be a regular Archie and Veronica for a day, if you want! Just make sure your eyes do not stray to the other sights on the beach – that could be a super fiasco!
Pros: Beaches are the cheapest option, and there’s lot of fun to be had. Where else could you have a chance to check out your girl in a bikini on the first date? If things go wrong, you can even admire the other bikinis.
Cons: The beach idea might not work if your girl is the bookish type. You might not know, but there is a species of girls who do not like beaches. If your lass is one of them, check out the next idea.

Idea # 4 – The Bookstore
The bookstore? Come again? Yes, buddy, you heard it right – the bookstore is an excellent idea for many reasons. Firstly, girls love books. Some of them also read them 🙂 Okay, serious now … At the bookstore, you can get to know what the girl’s likes and dislikes are. That comes in handy if you are contemplating a gift for her. You can check out what her tastes in music are. Wise men say people who have similar tastes hit it off better. So, you can actually get a hint of how far this relationship can go. Yes, the bookstore is a good idea for future planning. And whoever said a bookstore is all about books? There are cafés where you can sit together and chat – some of these cafés are really very cozy.
Pros: You get to know more about the person in the bookstore. And you need not buy anything. If you do that, this is the cheapest date idea.
Cons: You might feel a bit bored if you stay too long. Or, worse, your girl might feel bored. However, that really depends on your likes. I know of people who spend hours in bookstores without feeling a tinge of boredom.

Idea # 5 – An Expensive Dinner
Let’s face it – all of us cannot afford an expensive dinner on the first date. But if you really have that kind of money, and if you are something like a celebrity who cannot be seen in cheap public places, then a dinner in a swank restaurant is the best bet. It is very wrong to say that the surest way to a man’s heart is through his stomach. Wrong, because it applies to women too. And girls go more for visual grandeur. So, if you are able to have an exclusive five-course meal with her and show your gourmet knowledge, there’s no doubt she’ll be impressed. And it will pave the way for a second date. Discreetly, you can decide to do something cheaper the next time. It would work since she already knows your gastronomical etiquette. Make sure to decide the next date before the dessert comes in!
Pros: Makes way for a long-lasting relationship, filled with happy gastronomical delights!
Cons: Money, money, money! Get those American Express cards ready.

Ways to Manage Work and Family Life

There was once a young man who was unable to manage office and home together. He was plagued by deadlines he had to meet at work, and he always saw his children only when they were asleep. He did not know what to do! One day, the young man’s father visited them. The young man told his father about the problem. The father smiled and promised to bring him a solution. The next day the father turned up with a colorful coleus plant. The young man was puzzled. The father said – “Tomorrow when you leave for work, simply touch the youngest of the coleus leaves and say ‘To you I leave my household woes, for now I am a man of the world’; and when you return from work at night, touch the same coleus leaf and say ‘I am returning to my wife and kids – let them both find their husband and father respectively, and not a man troubled by his work life’.” And as sure as the sun rises in the East and sets in the West, the young man regained balance in his life.

If only everyone could find a coleus like that! But the essence of the story is – problems are a problem only till we treat them as problems! Here are some easy-to-follow tips to manage your work and family life.

Don’t Bring Work Home

This is probably the gravest mistake a man / woman can make as a partner, a parent and a family person – bringing work home. It just spoils everything! Your wife is not going to be happy with it, your children are going to miss their Dad, and heck; it is going to kill your sex life too! On the other hand, if you are a woman, you are going to kill yourself by bringing work home! Your children need their mother even if she is the CEO of a really big and important company. It is never a good idea to bring work home. The best thing to do if you have pending work is to reach office a little early and leave a little late, rather than carry work home. That way, you can be completely there for your kids and for your partner once you are home.

Don’t Carry Family Problems to Work

Just the way it is important to not bring work home, it is also important to leave family problems and tensions home, before you step into the office premises. Carrying family problems to work is totally unprofessional and can hamper your performance. If you are going to come to office and still be stuck up on your child’s homework or the bank loan for your house, your boss is not going to like it. Plus, it is not a professional who mixes work and family – nah uh! Agreed, not everybody is affected as much by family problems, and there are people who can segregate the two easily and effectively, but there is still that subconscious load that we always carry. The best way to take care of this is to completely immerse yourself in the task at hand, so that you can block out anything else that may prove as a conspicuous (or even subconscious) distraction.

Two Different Phones

This is probably the best tip I can ever give – use two different phones, one for your professional life and one for your family and friends. Make sure you do not exchange the professional number with any family members or friends, and do not exchange the personal number with any people at work. That way, you can ‘choose’ who you want to be available to at what time in the day and on what days of a week. At the same time, you can inform maybe 2 or 3 of your closest family members and closest colleagues about both the numbers, in case it is absolutely necessary for them to reach you. A mobile phone can be as much of a bane as a boon! It is in our hands to be able to manage the device rather than turning into a slave of technology. Take charge, and turn things around.

Weekend is ‘Me n My Family’

The weekend is the one time in the week when you can totally be a family man / woman. Kick back and relax. Do not attend to any work related calls. The call of duty should not only be professional but should also be personal. If you plan your work well, you will be able to meet all deadlines and still be with your family without feeling guilty of having left work undone. It is all only a question of managing your time. If you are unable to give your family time during the week, then segregate the week into working days and weekends, and do justice to both of them. Be a complete professional during the week, but when it is weekend, forget you are the GM of your firm, and be the father / mother your kids want you to be, show them your love and affection. Be the husband / wife your partner needs you to be, and let her / him know you still haven’t forgotten how she / he likes to be touched!

Talk to Friends

The thing is, we get only one life. So we can never be ‘prepared’ for certain things. We do not have the experience of becoming a parent when we become a parent for the first time. We do not have the experience of being married when we get married for the first time. Sometimes, this is why certain situations in life overwhelm us. But if not your own, you can definitely learn a few things from the experiences of those around you. So do not shy away from talking to your family, friends and relatives. Do not feel like it is a failure on your part that you cannot manage to do something. Many around you also probably couldn’t manage to do it the first time they tried. But if today they have succeeded in doing something, so can you. Take inspiration, and grab the bull by its horns!
The biggest of our follies is that sometimes we fail to realize the fact that we do not always have to choose between two things; sometimes the solution to a problem is to choose both things. There can be a win-win answer to such questions; if only we look for them sincerely, they will enlighten us. Follow these tips as sincerely as you follow the company employees handbook. Just because nobody is going to penalize you for not giving your family time and attention, does not mean it is not going to have any effects. In fact, if you get sacked, you can still get another job; but a broken home is one that is almost impossible to fix. So take the time out for both the things, as they are both important in life. All the best!