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Ways to Get a Girl to Like You

download-5There are guys who are naturally suave and can get any girl they wish to fall for them. And then there are guys who have no clue about what to do when the object of their affection is in front of them. Assuming you’re from the latter lot, here’s a piece of advice for you. Don’t panic! First, you’re not the only guy out there who gets tongue-tied when he likes a girl. Second, it’s a perfectly natural reaction to get nervous when she’s around, especially if she has no clue about your feelings.

Make Sure She Knows You Exist

A girl will not give you a second glance if she can’t…well…see you. So, make yourself visible to her. We don’t mean wear neon, we mean do simple things to get her attention. Things like smiling, saying a polite hello, holding the door open for her may seem inconsequential, but these are the things that girls do notice. Find excuses to be around her (not in a stalkerish way though). If you happen to have common friends, get them to introduce the two of you and take it from there.

Look Presentable, Always

OK. So she knows who you are. You guys hang out with a bunch of friends now and then. How can you make her pay attention to you? For starters, dress well. Boys, we know dressing up isn’t on your priority list always, but if you want to make a good impression on this girl you’re sweet on, kindly take the effort to make yourself worth looking at. Take the time to pick out good clothes. They don’t have to be over-the-top expensive designer wear, they just have to fit right and make you look decent.
Pay attention to your hair. Whatever look you’re going for, please complete it. Don’t wear the best clothes and then not wear socks with your sneakers! Yes, girls do notice such things and the tiniest faux pas can alter her perception about you. Always smell good. Girls love guys who smell good. It’s the first thing that attracts them towards you, physically at least. That being said, don’t douse yourself in perfume or cologne. Know when to stop spraying, you don’t want to give her a headache.

Be Well-mannered and Confident

The world says girls like only bad boys. We say girls like guys who treat them nice. Girls like guys who walk on the traffic side of the road, who play with their pets, who respect elders. Girls like guys who will keep the swearing for when they’re with the other guys. Most of all, girls like guys who are confident. So, no matter how nervous you get when she’s around, muster up the courage to at least appear confident in front of her. When you’re confident, it reflects in your disposition.
You must have heard people telling you to be yourself time and again. Here’s the deal: it works. When you’re being yourself, you don’t have to pretend to be someone you’re not. There’s no one who can be a better YOU than YOU. So, use yourself to your advantage and see how confident you can be.

Don’t Just Listen, Talk

True: Girls (almost) always have something to talk about.
Also True: Girls like guys who are good listeners.

False: Girls like guys who are only good listeners.

It may be indisputable that girls can go on and on about the tiniest or the biggest of things. But then that’s true even about guys. The misconception is that girls want guys to only listen. The fact of the matter is that, a girl wants to talk to someone who can give the appropriate responses and ensure that the conversation keeps going.
So the next time she talks, listen. Get to know things about her. What she likes and dislikes. What her hobbies and interests are. This way, when she talks about something she’s passionate about, you know what it’s about and can continue talking. You can contribute to a conversation that she’ll definitely not forget, rather than just smiling and nodding intermittently as half the world expects you to.

Give Her a Daily Odd Compliment

Girls love compliments, that’s not news to anyone. What guys sometimes misconstrue this as is that girls love compliments about the way they look. Think about it. She’s pretty: you know it, she knows it. She’s probably heard it from ten other people already. So what can you do? Go beyond her physical being. Compliment her about her creativity.
Admire her patience as she explains a math problem to someone. Tell her how nice it is of her to confirm that all her friends reached home safe after a late night together. Tell her how well she plays the guitar. These are the things girls want appreciated. When you’re complimenting her, be careful not to extol her like she’s a goddess of sorts. She’ll probably just get creeped out and not talk to you again.

Observe the Niceties

When trying to get a girl to like you, this is one thing you just can’t escape. No matter how cliché being nice is, you’ve still got to do it. We’re not talking expensive gifts and promises of the moon. We’re talking simple, yet meaningful gestures that will touch her heart. Remember her birthday. Go one step ahead, remember her family’s birthdays. It will only help your case to get to know her as well as you can, and surprise her with these observations now and then.
Help her whenever she asks for it, and sometimes even when she doesn’t. Remember what her favorite flavor of ice-cream is. Find out what’s her pet peeve. You’re looking at this girl as your prospective girlfriend, as a person you want to have a relationship with.

Be the ‘Friend’ Her Friends Love

There’s an unwritten rule among girls: if I don’t like the guy you’re considering dating, don’t date him. And while there may be exceptions to this rule (just like any other), the importance of a BFF’s approval of a boy in a girl’s love life cannot be ignored. So, here’s the trick: get the friends on your side first. Be extremely nice to them. Help them whenever they need something. Be friendly and fun around them. Be the guy they’ll WANT their friend to be with.
When the girl in question sees what a great and fun person you are to be around, she’ll want a piece of the cake too. And you’ll have a special piece for her, won’t you? *wink wink* Be nice to her friends and they’re likely to put in a good word for you, knowingly or unknowingly. This way, even if it doesn’t work out with her, you can’t have too many friends, can you?

Make Her Laugh

Guys constantly underestimate the importance girls attach to a good sense of humor. A good sense of humor is interpreted as intelligence by most girls. So, make her laugh, make her laugh hard. Smart, witty, dry, sarcastic, goofy: employ any kind of funny you can to impress her. We know it’s not possible for everyone to have the flair of a stand-up comedian and be spontaneous, so it is important to be prepared.
Avoid being sexist. She’ll laugh off a couple jokes, but you must know when to stop. Else you’ll be a labeled ‘that sexist jerk’, a tag that is not very easy to get rid of. Body parts are not to meant to be joked about. Period. Girls generally do not appreciate jokes made about anyone’s body or appearance. Ridiculing other people to make her laugh is not the right way to go about it. If being mean to someone else is the only way you can be funny, please find another way to make Her laugh. Unless insensitive-jerk-who-needs-to-demean-others-to-get-a-laugh is what you’re aiming for.

Flirt with Class

You’ve got to bring in that extra zing to let her know that you have more than friendship on your mind. Flirt: it’s the only way to avoid being stuck in the dreaded ‘friend zone’. But be classy and subtle about it. Tease her with hints here and there so that she knows that you have a romantic interest in her. For instance, if she thanks you for something that you did for her, say something like, “Anything for you sweetheart.” It’s cheesy but it gets the job done.
Physical contact is another important tool to make her aware that you’re attracted to her. But be very very subtle about this. A girl will judge in an instant whether she’s OK with you touching her or not. So you’ve got to be really cautious. Touching her elbow while crossing the street, helping her put on her coat, putting your arm around her shoulders when she’s upset; these are all safe. Maintain a proper distance, give her hints, and let her take it from there. If she likes you back, she will.
You may read page after page about getting a girl to like you, but you’ve got to be prepared for heartbreak as well. The tips given here are just generic ones on what girls generally tend to like. Every girl is different. What may make one’s heart melt may make another’s skin crawl. At the end of the day, all you can do is be true to yourself and to her. The rest will fall into place, if it has to.

How to Say Sorry for Your Boyfriend

images-5Erich Segal, in his book Love Story quoted, “Love means never having to say you are sorry.” However, there are times when things go wrong, when you screw up, and you must say sorry to your beloved. Along with what you say, what also makes a huge difference is how you say it.
Every relationship has its phases of highs and lows. So, did you have your first big fight and come storming back home with tears in your eyes? Do you feel like it is the end of everything and your boyfriend is at fault…or maybe not entirely? Are you regretting to have created a scene and of blaming your boyfriend for unnecessary things?Patching up and having to say you’re sorry is not really as difficult as it seems.

If you are truly in love and regret your act, there are many ways to say sorry to your boyfriend. An apology is an indication that you are embarrassed about the way you acted, and if he truly loves you, he is bound to let go of all the issues and embrace you with immense happiness.

Different Ways to Apologize

Hug

A bear hug should be the first thing on your agenda. A hug goes to show you care, and offers warmth and comfort in any relationship. A warm and tight hug would only help to melt away any feelings of anger towards you.

Gift

It will also go to show you really care and that you do not just say things without meaning them. Romantic gifts, or even better, personalized gifts will definitely help to ease the tense situation between the two of you. Put on your thinking cap to come up with some cool gift ideas that you know he will appreciate.

Scrapbook

Make a cute book which is a compilation of all your fond memories together. You could stick pictures of the two of you and describe the events of each particular picture, telling him how much all those days spent together mean to you. To make the book more interesting, you can also draw or stick pictures of some of his favorite things.

Poster

When asked why do you love your guy, I’m sure you have a long list of answers. It’s time to put those answers down on paper. You can make a poster, with say 50 reasons describing why you love him. Even if your guy is not mushy, this one is bound to melt his heart immediately.

Dinner

What is so special about a dinner you may ask! Well, I’m not talking about those usual dinners, instead something with a twist. If you are a good cook, you can invite him over and prepare his favorite dishes. Take this one step ahead on the romantic meter and light some candles and play his favorite songs. If cooking is not one of your strongest points, you can also take him out. This could be a place that holds a special meaning for you two.

Song

This one is bound to be an absolute hit with any guy. You can look up the lyrics of your favorite song as a couple or a romantic song like Please forgive me, I Can’t Stop Loving You by Bryan Adams, and then sing this song for your beloved. Whether you think you can sing well or no, he will really appreciate your courage for trying. If singing is just not your thing, you can also write a poem or a love letter to him.

Card

Look for a beautiful card or make one yourself with meaningful words, and give it to him personally. If you have a creative streak, you could also write the words yourself to say sorry. You can also look online for meaningful and sweet words to say sorry. Making a card will show that you have really made efforts and want to win back his love.
Tips to Remember While Saying Sorry
If even after trying these ideas, he still shows signs of aggression, you have to be patient and loving. Once he knows how you genuinely feel, he will forgive you for sure. Select a good time to apologize. Do not pick a time when he is busy with work or is loaded with personal problems. Make sure you select a time when he is alone and can listen to what you have to say or to go along with your plans.
Give him ample space. Let him express his anger, but avoid getting defensive. Any kind of argument would only worsen the situation. Try to understand what he is saying and his point of view. It is important that you hear him out first, and then genuinely apologize to him and say you are sorry. The moment he realizes you really mean it, his anger will surely reduce. Besides, you might even get a surprise when he apologizes to you for certain things he may have said!
Time is the best factor, and you only need to keep conveying the message that you care. With time, he will surely come back to you as he realizes how genuinely you feel about the same issue. With love and respect from your side, you are bound to make him realize the importance of the wonderful relationship you both share.

Break Up Tips for Girls

images-4Breaking up with someone you love is hard, especially when you have to question so many aspects of the relationship that need evaluating. There are some tough questions you’ll be faced with, when you’re up against the wall with relationship issues that have been brewing for a long time. You need to clear your mind, and gain some perspective, and ask yourself some pretty nail-hitting questions. How can you be so sure if this is the guy/man for you?

Is he the guy/man you thought you always knew? People change, and one’s true colors come forth once that fake facade is striped away slowly, over time. You’ll come across here on some breakup words of wisdom for girls and women too. After all, guys are very much like men, and they’re not very hard to understand if you know exactly what to look for. It’s all in the way they talk, behave, and interact with others, that will have you answering some of relationships’ toughest queries in the following breakup advice for girls.

Breakup Questions for Girls/Women

If a girl/woman is smart enough to ponder about the flaws that her relationship has, or really look at how chipped it is from certain angles, she really knows what she wants. To really come to a conclusion that you don’t regret, and are happy about, you have to answer some direct, and obvious question, about your relationship.

  • Does he give me the respect I know I deserve?
  • Do my family and friends see something off about him, that I don’t?
  • Do I find myself sticking up for immoral behavior on his part?
  • Is it fair that he misses out on important things that happen in my life?
  • Is he financially stable to support me and possible children in the future?
  • Is he a good influence on people?
  • Are his friends, people I dislike for morality issues?
  • How do I know that he’s not meeting other women on his frequent business trips?
  • How do I know if he wants a future and isn’t here for the moment?
  • Am I okay with him being involved in illegal acts?
  • Am I okay with him meeting his ex-girlfriends too often?
  • If he’s been divorced in the past, how do I know if things will work out for us?
  • Can I handle being with a single father?
  • Am I ready to commit to someone I barely know?

Is it weird that he hasn’t introduced me to his parents yet? (ideal time is within the first 6 months)
Can I handle his over possessive nature?
Is his obsessive nature swerving out of control?
Is it right to feel fear every time he comes around? (abusive in nature)
Am I taking advice from family/friends for granted, about something I choose not to believe in about him?
Is cheating forgivable after the first or second time?
How I do know he won’t repeat his acts of infidelity by covering his tracks better the next time?
Am I ready to gamble away my life if I’m not really sure about this guy/man?
Break up Advice

There are so many areas of a relationship that need to be extracted and analyzed, since no one really knows whom they’re with, even after being with them for years. They say it takes a day to know someone, but that’s just pure crap. Dating a stranger is a little tricky, since you don’t know anyone to ask about this guy/man, and he’s new to everyone you introduce him to. Whereas if you met him through a mutual friend or two, then you know that they have solid background information to know exactly who he is. So here I’m going to take you along the most obvious of problems that most women and girls face. Identifying where you fall, and how you can change your life for the better, is your call.

Long Distance Relationships
When dealing with a long distance relationship, trust me, it is not easy. There are so many things that you have to confront. He could be cheating on you with another woman/girl where he is, he could be using you as someone to have when he’s in town, he could be a totally different person all together, he can disappear on you and never get in touch again, and so on. So ask yourself now how it will come down to compromise as well. Are you willing to leave your place and settle where he’s at? Are you wiling to put your career on hold for him? Can you handle the pressure of a long distance relationship, and manage your studies as well? Are you willing to leave a familiar place to one that you have no clue about? Are expenses a non issue when keeping in touch with him? Is it worth all this trouble? There’s a lot that comes with a relationship that’s miles away. Are you willing to do all that you can to make it work, with no assurance whatsoever, is something you’ll have to answer to yourself.

Extramarital Affairs
You could be dating a married man, and expecting him to leave his wife, and kids if he has any, for you. How can you guarantee that this won’t come back to haunt you someday? He could do the same thing to you, and have you hanging with a pair of kids in tow. Ask yourself if a married man, whose wife has no inkling whatsoever of what he’s doing behind her back, is the right guy/man for you. There are many married guys/men who promise women (and girls) that they want to run away with them and start a whole new life – not really caring about their wives or children. Is this what you want? You want to carry that burden of guilt forever, knowing that what you did hurt someone? Ask yourself if this is how you see yourself years from now – with married men who can change their minds and chicken out on their promises to women/girls they’re with. So think hard about what you’re doing, and honestly the best thing to do, is find someone who has no baggage.

Rebound Relationships
The worst thing a girl/woman can do, is find a great guy/man to be with, who sadly is her rebound guy/man. I totally get why you would want someone else to fill in the space, and be the cause for a distraction. The problem is, you’re in a relationship with this guy/man, and not in a one night stand or casual fling. This is a full-fledged dating scenario, where the guy/man thinks you’re genuinely in it, for the commitment. Ask yourself if what you’re doing is right, and work out your messy past with him, and tell him you’re ready to move on, and make things better with him. If this person is someone you want to just pass the time with, and not really get involved with for the long haul, then the right thing to do, would be to end it well, and then afterward look for something more solid and worthwhile when you’re ready.

You can see why women/girls are caught in a whirlwind of doubts about where things are going, and what they should do about it in a relationship. No one can really help you, except yourself. What people offer in terms of help, are words of advice. It is, at the end of the day, up to you, how you use the above relationship breakup advice to decide what’s next.

Ways to Know If a Girl Likes You Over Text

That’s right! If she laughs at your silly jokes, playfully tells you, “You’re funny!”, thinks your silly anecdotes are hilarious, you’ve won half the battle my friend. Rest assured that she is into you and thinks you are cute.

So, you can tell that she enjoys your company if you ‘see’ her laughing at your jokes. But what happens when you fail to make out what her reaction is? Does her face light up when you text her? And, in turn, does your phone light up with an immediate reply from her? Yes? Oh boy, she does like you!

For the boys, an extra ‘y’ in heyy will go completely unnoticed, or will be shrugged off as a typo, but when a girl does that, she means more than just to say hey. I know, it is a task to discover the hidden meaning behind every emoticon she sends, or the ellipsis at the end of a sentence. But if she lights up your world and makes you want to sing louder than thunder, she is worth all the trouble, right? And after all, Oscar Wilde, who said, “Women are meant to be loved, not to be understood”, was the only person who really ever ‘understood’ women. Yes, you are no Oscar Wilde, and no, we do not have Mr. Wilde to help you out here. What we do have for you is a list of signs that will analyze her texting style and tell you if she likes you.

She teases you…

A girl would only mock or playfully tease someone whom she is extremely fond of and comfortable with. If she teases you about the spelling mistakes you accidentally make while texting, or your funny nickname that your friends gave you, or how you overslept and had to take it from your mom, it shows that she hangs on to every little detail about you.

She asks a lot of questions …

You texted her saying that you have football practice the next morning. ‘How do you feel about football? How many goals are you going to shoot? How did you develop interest in football? Who is your favorite football player?’ Do these questions and more follow? If yes, she is trying to share your interests and create common ground for conversation. She definitely wants to get to know you better.

She initiates conversations …

If she is the one who strikes up a chat more than often, think no more. If a girl likes you, she will send you texts that are sure to start a conversation between you two. Girls do very less of initiation, for fear of coming across as needy or too obvious. If she does it with you, and does it quite often, she sure likes you a lot.

She uses a lot of smileys/emoticons …

Bland text messages, with one word responses are a warning sign, and you should get out of her way ASAP. On the other hand, when she uses emoticons, she wants to make sure you know how she actually reacts. This shows that she has taken the extra effort of telling you that she is excited, or angry, or happy, or sad. An animated conversation dotted with emoticons is a definite pass. She is totally smitten by you!

She responds immediately …

How long do you need to wait after you text her? A few seconds? A few split seconds? You don’t need to wait at all? Rejoice with happiness! An immediate response or a quick reply is a sign that means you are important to her, and that she wouldn’t dream of keeping you waiting. If she is caught up in something, and does not have the time to continue texting, she will let you know that she is busy, and that she will revert as soon as possible.

The content in her messages is personal …

Where did she shop from? What was the flavor of the ice cream she had this afternoon? Why is she upset? Who made her laugh today? -Do her texts tell you about all this and more? She not only likes you, she trusts you. Girls are big on trust and are very protective of their secrets and whom they share it with. If she is comfortable discussing a family problem with you, or a tattoo she is contemplating about, it is possible that she more than just likes you.

When and how she says goodbye …

A girl doesn’t like to come across as very obvious with her interest in you by texting for long periods. Though she wants to, she will fight the urge to continue talking to you, just to make it look like there’s more to her life than you. Pay attention to her goodbyes. If they are cheerful, like ‘Bye, I’ll see you soon’ or ‘Gotta go, but I’ll talk to you later’, it subtly hints that she is sorry to end the conversation now, but will pick it up with you later. She likes talking to you!

She uses your name a lot …

“Hey!” and “Hey, Liam!”, the difference is evident, right? Greeting someone by their name instead of just a plain greeting makes it more personal. The vibe of the conversation changes. It shows how excited and genuinely happy she is while talking to you.
She laughs a lot …

If her texts have a lot of emoticons that depict smiles, laughter, and laughing out loud, she definitely likes you. If you find her laughing at the worst jokes you have ever cracked, take a hint: she likes you. So, she blushes when you compliment her beautiful tresses, and smiles when you tell her how great a dancing pair you two would make. These are not even hints, these are sure-shot signs that she is awestruck by you, and is probably waiting for you to make the next move!

It takes skill to be a girl. Your girl is complicated, hard to understand, mysterious, laughs about stupid things, and cries about stupid things. But it is this girl who is the best part of your day. It is she who makes you go crazy with those cute smileys, innocent messages, and sweet replies. Now that you know what that ‘wink’ really means, stop looking for hints, man up, and go make the next move!